Many of us find ourselves chasing fulfillment. Christians and non-believers alike. We are looking for that person, place, or thing that makes us feel happy, that makes us feel complete. And this uncontrollable desire for fulfillment often leads to unrest and discontentment in our lives. When we seek fulfillment in other people we might find a temporary euphoric satisfaction, but over time we are always disappointed. When we seek satisfaction by acquiring stuff, it is never enough.
Don’t get me wrong, I like stuff as much as the next guy. In fact, I have gained, used, traded, shared, given and lost more stuff than any person could possibly need in a lifetime. I will no doubt continue my utilization and enjoying of stuff. And there is nothing wrong with that, because I no longer expect the stuff to be the source of my contentment. Also, I will be the first person to encourage people to find friends that bring them joy. I can also attest, first hand, to the countless benefits and warmth found in finding and maintaining true love with the one God has prepared for you. There is no better feeling in this world than looking into her eyes and knowing she feels for you the endless love you feel for her. No doubt about it, that is a gift from God. However, if you expect another person to make you whole or to fulfill your every need and desire, you will eventually resent them for not being able to achieve an impossible role. It is an unfair expectation and will lead to disappointment, every single time.
There is only one relationship that can make you whole, make you feel content, protect you, and fulfill you. That can only be accomplished by our God, the creator of everything. And He will pursue you, in fact, He will never stop pursuing you. He will knock at your door many times, but it is up to you to let Him in (Revelation 3:20). He will meet you where ever you are. He will rescue you, He will test you, He will warn you, and He will speak to you. Will you listen? (Psalms 81:7-8)
One thing that I find interesting is that many of us are completely comfortable pushing and striving – chasing fulfillment when we think it is more money, finding true love, faster car, bigger house, smarter kids, or better job. Our society tells us that that drive is honorable ambition. Yet, when it comes to our relationship with God, we aren’t nearly as comfortable making the effort. Yes, we hear the sermons and we logically know that we must pursue a relationship with God. We might even say a prayer before we eat or go to bed. But what if we put the same effort, or even half the effort, in pursuing, worshiping, and pleasing God as we do trying to obtain more stuff? It is true, He will pursue us, and that is how we meet Him. But to truly know Him, the ball is in our court.
The Bible tells us to ask, seek, and knock (Matthew 7:7-8). There are purposely three levels to the pursuit we are supposed to undertake. Most of us get stuck in the Ask stage. We bow our heads and ask for the things we want, usually very general and basic requests. Or we just throw up ‘prayer flares’ where we bargain with God by saying – if you give me x, I will never do y or z again. I am not discounting these prayers, because I do not believe there is a wrong way to pray. However, I do believe that prayer is meant to be relational instead of transactional. I do not think God wants your grocery list. I think He wants to have a conversation with you and ultimately a relationship with you.
Some of us realize that relationships cannot be one way, and we advance past the ask stage. We truly want to know God so we start enter the Seek stage. We start listening, really listening, to our Sunday sermons and we even start reading the Word on our own. We start personalizing our prayers and praising Him instead of just placing our orders. This is where many of us start to feel His presence in our lives. Some may be content here. But others catch on fire and really start to pursue Him further.
The Knock stage is where we really start to listen to God directly. Now, I have never heard his thundering voice or even an audible whisper, but I can tell you without a doubt, that God has spoken to me. It happens in many ways. He will show me a specific scripture, present a person at just the right time, or simply put a seemingly random thought in my mind that turns out to be an answer I was seeking. For me the knock stage has been becoming aware of His interaction with me in these ways. I still struggle with recognition on a daily basis. Often only realizing it was Him in hindsight. But I am learning to pay attention to the “coincidences” and trying to tune in to what He is showing me through them. With each realization and conversation, I feel a sense of wholeness. Confirmation that I am walking in the righteous path that He is paving. Fulfilled.
You see, ambition and the drive to get better or have more is not bad or evil. But we also have to be careful not to misguide that ambition. We need to strive for the right reasons, realizing what is our fuel and recognizing the source of our accomplishments. For many of us it is a complete paradigm shift. We have to change our perspective from being a self-serving consumer. It may seem completely backwards to most of us, but to truly live a greater life, to really feel accomplishment, we must have the mind of a servant. Many of us have an worldly view of the word servant – we almost relate it to slavery. But in truth being a servant really means caring for others. Put others concerns and cares above yours. To be first, you must be last – a servant to all (Mark 9:35).
We are born to strive for greater. And our Biblical mission is clear: Love God and Love others. Remember that Love is a verb and not a feeling. Our relationship with God –loving Him– is our only true source of contentment and our serving of others through His work –loving others– is our only true source of fulfillment.