Often, especially when there is an important conversation, we focus our attention on trying to find the right words to contribute to the conversation. We are drawn by the importance of saying the right thing at the right time. Maybe we think that we have to say these words to seem engaged in the conversation, to show we care or are involved. Maybe we think we have to say these words because it is critical that our voice be heard. Whatever the reason, often times we are more focused on formulating our thoughts than we are on listening to the thoughts and voice of others. In this format a conversation is rarely genuine or productive. People feeling like they are not being heard is a great source of frustration and anger. The first step toward compassion is understanding.
We should strive to listen more. Instead of formulating our next thought, lets focus on the thought being conveyed to us by the other people in the conversation. Instead of hunting for the right words, hang on their words. Instead of trying to prove a point, try to understand their perspective. People feeling like they are not being heard is a great source of frustration and anger. The first step toward compassion is understanding. If you really want to show you care, if you really want to have the conversation, if you really want to start the momentum of change – start by listening.
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19)
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